Weird headline, huh?
Well, they're both relevant in their own way.
University life has been amazing so far, although it's been very different to how I imagined.
Honestly, I don't think I could have better flat-mates.
We're all very different in the sense of our personalities, tastes in music and just general interests, but it makes life much more spontaneous and enjoyable.
If we were all the same, it'd be a bore.
We have the sports fanatic (me), the suave cool guy, the handyman who can do amazing DJing, the girl next door, the ditzy one and the really cheerful motherly one. (to be fair, all the girls look after us men)
So that aspect of university has been awesome, we're a tight group and when you look at other flats who are clearly disjointed, we're quite lucky.
Bowling -
One of the best things about being at the University of Lincoln, is there's a really, really cool bowling alley called Superbowl just down the road.
I've been there a few times now, and it's so old-school and vintage, it's the beeeeees kneeeeeeees.
I've been with course and flat mates and it's been pretty decent.
But bowling can come in other forms too, just yesterday night, my flatmates and I made a bowling alley out of coco pops boxes and it was equally as fun.
These spontaneous things that happen at university are my favourites, because the random things you can just make-up to occupy your time are just... hm, interesting I guess?
Reading -
So that's bowling out of the way and now there's reading.
I don't mean reading a book, I mean reading people.
Before university I thought one of my biggest skills was the ability to read people, to know where I stand with them right away.
For whatever reason, that's not possible here.
You can spend a lot of time someone, and still have no possible idea what impression they have of you, and that's probably the biggest difference to my "old life."
In Milton Keynes, I knew exactly where I stood with everyone, I knew the boundaries and limits but in Lincoln, I have no idea!
It's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just different.
I don't think I'm the only one who feels this too, you can sense a lot of the time people around you are trying to figure you out, to get some sort of idea of what you're like.
It makes it even more difficult though when you can't understand someone though as it makes it harder to open yourself up.
Obviously we're only 5 weeks in, and it does take time to get to know someone and for them to trust you, but there are some special cases I think!
One thing university has taught me is, things can change really quick.
You can be really, really close with people one week, then another it's like you don't know them, which is a massive shame.
However, if you make an effort to stay connected to those people, you should be fine.
Last spontaneous thoughts -
My course is amaaaaaaazing.
It's so enjoyable and the range of subjects I get to learn is ridiculously awesome.
My journalism course ranges from law to history to shorthand with a bit of multi platform studies on the side!
Also, just one piece of advice, be honest.
Be upfront with people, and don't hide or pretend there isn't any tension, because it doesn't help.
Whether it's your flat-mate, course-mate or even a crush, honesty is definitely the best policy at university (as cliché as that sounds).
You can run away from confrontations or dodgy topics, but it'll build up inevitably and sooner or later you'll find yourself in a mess and it'll be too late to get out of it.
To be fair though, I need to follow my own advice, because it's easy to not want to be judged or for it to be awkward as a result, but even if it is, it's better to unload and not carry the weight of that tension you're holding on your shoulders.
Honesty won't solve your every problem, but it'll make you feel better on the inside, and from what I've seen at university, you need to look after yourself first, because in a lot of people's eyes, you're disposable and you can be replaced.
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